Some people don’t realize that they are selfish. Having behaviors that are selfish can mean that they don’t put others first and they only care about themselves. Being selfish can mean that you don’t worry about how your decisions affect others and you only deal with it when you have to face the consequences.
Selfishness and self-care are different, and you should practice self-care by making sure that you are taken care of. Selfishness means that you are insecure, controlling and you might have mental situations such as being a narcissist.
Are You Selfish?
When you aren’t able to compromise and you are manipulative, chances are that you are selfish. You might be selfish and not even realize it. Here are some signs:
- It’s your way or no way: Being this way in a small way is okay but when everything has to be your way, you are probably selfish. If your partner makes a decision for both of you and you refuse to agree to it, it could mean you are selfish.
- Controlling: You will never let your partner or other people have an opinion. If they make decisions, you are already against it. You want to control yourself and others.
- You love to manipulate others to make things your way. You will manipulate your friends, family and even strangers. You might be a liar and you don’t care about how you make people feel. You might be self-absorbed, and you don’t care about the happiness of others.
- You never apologize: People who are selfish never apologize. You call other people out if they are sensitive and you even have narcissistic traits. Apologizing when you hurt others should be the first thing that you do.
- You aren’t giving: You want to focus on yourself and not worry about what anyone else has. You don’t put yourself in other people’s shoes and you only focus on how you feel.
- The communication you give is negative. You have a hard time communicating with others and this can lead to emotional abuse.
- You talk about others behind their back.
- You don’t value the time of others. You don’t care about how people feel and what is going on. You don’t value others and you are only about yourself.
Selfish People
When you deal with someone that is selfish, you can never do enough for them. You can exhaust yourself trying to make them happy and it will never be enough. If you have a selfish partner, they won’t care what you do, and they will never try to give or change.
A person that never is thankful for what you do for them is selfish. One of the best decisions that you could make is to leave them and do what you can to please yourself.
Final Thoughts
Are you selfish? If you are and you have these signs, chances are that you need to change. Know that your feelings are real, and that other people have feelings to. Try to be kind and loving and get to a place where you can change your behavior.
Good behavior can bring you positive thoughts and feelings. This will help you to be healthy and help you to get past your selfishness.
I found this article to be incredibly enlightening! It’s so important to recognize the difference between self-care and selfishness. I appreciate how it highlights the need for balance in our relationships. Great read!
Honestly, this article is just another lecture on how we should act. Not everyone can be perfect, and sometimes putting yourself first is necessary for survival. Stop shaming people for taking care of themselves!
This piece provides a fascinating psychological perspective on selfishness. The traits outlined are very recognizable and align with many theories in psychology regarding narcissism and interpersonal relationships. Well-researched!
‘Selfishness is bad!’ Wow, ground-breaking insight here! Next, you’ll tell me water is wet. Maybe some people are just really into self-preservation—ever think of that?
If being selfish means I’m eating the last slice of pizza all by myself… then guilty as charged! 🍕 But hey, can we blame someone for wanting pizza?
“You aren’t giving.” Isn’t that a bit harsh? Some folks might just be introverted or overwhelmed by their own struggles. We shouldn’t jump to conclusions without understanding their context.
Right? This whole article feels like a finger-pointing session instead of encouraging dialogue about emotional well-being.
While I understand the author’s points about selfishness, I think it’s overly simplistic to label people as just ‘selfish.’ Everyone has different motivations, and sometimes what appears selfish may be a coping mechanism.
“You might be selfish if you never apologize.” That’s like saying you might be a cat if you knock things off tables! Come on, not apologizing is practically a lifestyle choice for some folks! 😂
‘Selfish’ or ‘selectively unaware’? Because let’s face it; some people just can’t seem to see beyond their own noses! 😂